I’m offended by the “me too” posts on Facebook and Twitter, and you should be, too.
I’m offended that so many of my family members, friends, and colleagues have been through something that made them feel like nothing.
I’m offended that for so many of them, posting two words on Facebook will be the only ‘opening up’ they will ever do about their perpetrators.
I’m offended that for many, the reality of sexual assault and violence will not end with these Facebook posts.
Why is it that we feel compelled to keep quiet about these things? The answer is power. Power is what keeps women quiet when the perpetrator is their boss, their family member, or their teacher. We see this story all the time in the news – a famous movie star or director is finally outed as a sexual predator/rapist, and over the course of months, sometimes years, women begin to come out.
But, wait! Why do women have to ‘come out’ about something that they didn’t do? Doesn’t the phrase ‘coming out’ suggest that doing that finally makes someone accept who they are from the inside? Sexual assault/harassment cuts us deep to a level that is most vulnerable. Once a woman begins to question her worth because of sexual harassment, it never goes away. By taking advantage of a woman, sexually, you are taking away a part of her being. So, remind me, why is it that we question how long it takes women to ‘come out’ about their stories? These women will never be completely okay with who they are. These victims will never accept themselves completely from the inside – nor will they ever expect anyone else to.
I am offended that our culture doesn’t see these women as what they are – victims.
I am offended that there is not more support for all of my friends and family who have posted ‘me too’ on their social media timelines.
I am offended that I know there are women who are too afraid to post ‘me too’ on their pages for fear of ridicule or disbelief.
Each ‘me too’ is important. It is time to start talking about the stories.
**I understand that women are not the only victims of sexual harassment/assault. I post this with a heavy heart for all of the women that are filling my Facebook feed and for those that aren’t.
***IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS IN IMMEDIATE DANGER OR NEEDS TO TALK – PLEASE CALL THE NATIONAL SEXUAL ASSAULT TELEPHONE HOTLINE @ 800.656.4673